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I write a
lot. It started a long time ago. Because of the amount I write it has become necessary
to store my volumes. What I don’t have
in quality I make up for in quantity. A
typical example are my diaries. Every
day I recorded what I saw around me and felt within diaries big and small and I
did this year in year out. When I
travelled abroad several decades ago these needed to be stored safely. I chose my cousin Del to be my custodian. One because she has a huge house in Belfast
and therefore room, two because she is trustworthy and three because she has
such a huge heart I knew she wouldn’t say no.
This is how I abuse those closest to me!
In the past week
after a period of well over 20 years of storage, I asked for the diaries to be returned
and my sweet cousin brought them back to me.
I chose at random one of the dairies and began to read and then finally weep.
It was written
in 1979, when I was 16 and scrawled on the back cover was written
“To the dead we
feel sorrow
To the dying we
feel commiseration
But to the
living we leave no tomorrow”
I was not a
cheerful puppy, evidently. Entry on Jan
1, 1975, which was a Wednesday, at exactly 1.15pm
“The nurse called
early today before I was up. Mummy tells
me I am getting fat and the nurse repeated remarks about my eating only emphasised
that.”
The fact that it
was the afternoon and I was still in bed having breakfast says a lot about how
I spent my day and how important food has always been in my life. For the first pages I complain a lot about
not having a colour TV. In fact, I
repeat this complaint almost every day for the first two months of the
year. Whining about not being able to
watch my favourite show Kojak in colour was incessant. Reading it bored me - endless descriptions of every episode of that
TV series. Yes, you read that
right. I filled page after page with
what had happened in each episode.
I am furious
with school, with people around me and with life. I end one-page entry with the line with the
one exception to that.
“Granda was very
calm and is very pleasant and courteous.”
This drew my
attention as my Grandfather lived with us and had already lost one leg to gangrene. The nurse mentioned earlier was treating his
remaining leg which had also begun to have gangrene. I read on and discover later that January
they had to take him to hospital to have this leg removed as well. What appals me now is how I complained for
weeks about nothing to all around me and, despite that, my grandfather took time
to be nice and pleasant to me while facing an operation that would eventually kill
him. Such is the gross and sad self-centredness
of teenagers.
On the 19th
of January I came across a poem that David, my cousin, wrote for our grandfather and which I carefully recorded in the diary.
“As a youth he
fought his country’s foes
And struggled in
many a field of bloody strife
Such was the
glorious dawn
To a happy life
He older grew
and had a smile for all
And all who knew
him loved his cheery ways
They blessed him
for his help
On troubled days
And now although
in patient’s bed he lies
The robes of melancholy
will not don
The spirit of a
soldier
Marching on.”
I remember being
told that my grandfather went to world war 1 aged only 17. When he went to the recruiting office he
mentioned his age and the officer told him to go around the room and queue again and to
say a different age if he wanted to join.
So, he did and fought through many battles including the carnage of the battle
of the Somme winning a commendation for bravery in the process. What a difference between his teenager’s life
and my own. I am struck by how tests
catapult people into a different level of existence. I am reminded of his bravery that was so much
a part of him we almost took it for granted.
His lack of fear and his good humour.
When he was very
ill one tactless old neighbour visited Granda, looking so poorly in bed with
his missing legs, and said “Ach Ben, if you were a horse I’d shoot you!” I remember Granda laughed out loud in
response. He never felt sorry for
himself and he met with all that life threw at him with a brave heart and a
smile.
I visited his
grave this week and was struck that the three people interred there together
all showed me so much love that I cannot put into words how thankful I am to
have had them in my life.
“I adjure Thee by Thy might, O my God!
Let no harm beset me in times of tests, and in moments
of heedlessness guide my steps aright through Thine inspiration. Thou art God,
potent art Thou to do what Thou desirest. No one can withstand Thy Will or
thwart Thy Purpose.”
—The Báb
Excellent!!
ReplyDeletethanks for encouragement xx
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